This year, 2016 has been a whirlwind. I imagine probably for all of us. With the different experiences we face come lessons. I am a believer that some experiences happen so that we can take a lesson from them and we can listen and absorb lessons of those around us have learned so that we don't have to learn it from experience. I have summarized some of the most important lessons I have learned on my journey of this year.
1. The Power of Universal Love
So I was just as critical and curious to what this meant when I first came upon the words in the book "Daily Meditations", by Melody Beattie. What she talked about was as simple as all of us being connected by something regardless of religion, love. Yes this sounds corny even as I type it. However, now that I am aware of it, the more I see the truth in it. Simple actions such as thinking loving thoughts towards someone, and honestly listening and being present while someone is talking. What I have taken from this lesson is that the more love we give out to the universe, the better the world becomes.
2. Patience is a Virtue
When I was younger my older brother would tell me this all the time. I understood I was impatient but I never took any actions to solve it, rather I preferred to not take any action towards it. Being patient to me as my younger self seemed like such a daunting task. Now that events in my life have forced me to be patient, I am realizing that is not just a task, it is an act of self kindness.
3. Being selfish sometimes is selfless
The act of self love is often overlooked because there are more important things to focus on. At least thats what I have thought. I have found that the way you treat yourself will eventually impact how you treat others. Also the more comfortable you are with who you are the more you can let shine the gifts you have onto others.
4. Change is necessary
We are all constantly changing. And before you think of how ambiguous that statement is, hear me out. If we do what we have always done, we will get what we always have gotten. In order to grow as a person we have to take the risk of changing, the risk for a better self, the risk for a better life. This can be really scary, the unknown; but not growing or changing is scary too.
5. This too shall pass
My favorite quote from an important person on my journey once said (actually a lot), "this too shall pass" . Even though we are going through certain situations that are difficult it will pass. I can't tell you where when or how but have faith that they will pass. This is easy to say in tough times but it is true. Have faith friends...
6. Faith is really important
I am not here to tell you what religion is the best or worst but I am a believer that all religions share a core element, and that is faith. Faith is important because it puts our worries and pains into the future rather then the future worries and pains into the now. To me faith is something that you can carry with you in all circumstances and is a tool you can use to remember whats important. Faith is a small act but has big benefits.
Meditation is one of those things that I have always given a bad rap too. I always thought I could sit still but why do it? I have done yoga for a long time but never got the whole breathing thing. Breathe in breath out... what did I do yesterday? whats for dinner? whats that one persons name? (aka Natalie's yoga thoughts...) I got to a point where my anxiety was extremely high. A friend recommended meditation so I reluctantly tried it. It is hard especially for 10 minutes. But I tried it again for 3 minutes everyday and it helps bring clarity and calmness to my day and yoga. :)
For those of you who are not familiar, the hashtag on social media, Goals, is a popular one. For me goal setting has always been something more like #dreams. But not too long ago, literally two days ago, I was suggested by an important person in my life to try making small goals towards the big goals on a monthly basis; thus the sticky note!!!! So for starting this year I am using sticky notes to remind me daily of the small goals I would like to accomplish this month. Those #dreams seem like more realistic #goals.
9. "Whoooo are you? Who who"
Learn who you are; and sing the song while your at it :). Taking the time to know who you are and what makes you you is an important lesson I have learned because many things that I did I was doing because of what I thought was normal or to fit in. When you know your values, you can easily distinguish whats right and wrong and you can determine your limits. You learn what makes you comfortable and uncomfortable so you can support yourself in times of discomfort. Once you know who you are you become less judgmental because you don't have to be jealous of others talents or livelihoods.
Thanks for reading my year lessons, feel free to share what you have learned this year via email or commenting below.:)