Tinder and Bumble are two apps that are pitted as the "downfall" of dating in millennials. However much we all hate on these apps, I know you have had experience with it.
1 -The past couple months I have been using apps and have found that it can be a very dangerous place for young people but I have many friends that have become "tinderellas" despite the merciless app. So here is a survival guide on how to manuever these dating apps.
2 - Make a list: Having a general list helps weed out some of the people that may not be good to talk to. Because you are meeting them through profile pictures, many of the social "checklists" we make to qualify people to fit what we are looking for are nonexistent with the apps, it's important to set up your own safety net.
3 - Be upfront: Make your intentions clear at the beginning, no matter what they are. This prevents confusion and just bad situations from happening.
4 - Strike a conversation: if the conversation is lacking on the phone, that may be a sign of either being shy, or not being super interested in getting to know you. Again depends on what you are looking for.
5 - Meet in a public place: Often times boys will want to "hang out" at their place. Well we all know what that means. My rule of thumb; coffee is for closers. Ok maybe not closers but if they "don't like coffee" or "are too tired" to leave their house they aren't worth your time. Case closed
6 - Watch what you wear: How you present yourself is important. Don't dress for attention, dress in a casual, non suggestive manner. Check out Traciemarieplease on outfit inspiration for a Bumble date!
7 - Have no expectations: Most definetly be careful that you don't put yourself into a bad situation but don't expect to become a "tinderella" after the first match.
8 - Have a backup plan: I have been stood up multiple times using the apps. I would be embarrassed and a little upset. Have a plan to call a friend or a treat yo self activity afterwords.
9 - Laugh a little: One of my friends who also used the app told me to find humor in it rather than being so serious. Their are some strange people that say weird things. Sometimes rather than taking it personally, unmatch them and laugh a little. (One guy asked me to write him a 5 stanza poem using the words apple, blue, and green... like what? LOL)
I have met many awful people through this but also many wonderful people who have made my life amazing. Be careful and stay true to you.